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Problem solving
Teaching children effective decision making and problem solving skills is an important part of being a good parent. Not only do parents need to be a positive role model as they work through decisions that affect their lives and family, they also need to teach children how to work through their own problems in dealing with peers, school, jobs and other life experiences. Learning and using a problem-solving process will help children grow up to be responsible, independent and capable adults. The steps to decision-making and problem solving (from 2002 Healthy Parenting Today) are: --Identify and define the problem: this may differ according to each person's point of view. --List possible options and alternatives: include all ideas. --Evaluate the options: encourage discussion among the children and family members. Consider if it is fair, realistic, honest, and not hurtful to another. --Choose one option: it is important that the solution to the problem does not create a problem for someone else. --Make a plan and do it: this may be difficult if someone is not in agreement. --Evaluate the result: if the solution did not work well, then try another option. This process helps children to learn to understand differing points of view, and that even the most difficult problems can eventually be resolved in some way. When successful, they can take ownership and feel good about the results. They may also learn that good solutions don't always work out, and that failure is not the end of the process, but a time to look at other alternatives. During and after this process, parents should encourage their children to look at what caused the problem, how it was (or was not) solved, and how to prevent similar problems in the future. Contributed by Karen Schueler, LCPC, Manager, Consultation and Education Department. Mail questions to: High Plains Mental Health Center, PLAIN SENSE, Consultation and Education Department, 208 East 7th, Hays, KS 67601; or visit www.highplainsmentalhealth.com.
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