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Talking to yourselfMost people carry on a silent conversation with themselves at some point during the day for various reasons. Some of these quiet conversations are designed to help us remember a specific task or errand, such as, "don't forget to pick up some milk on the way home." There are also personal conversations referred to as "self-talk" that can have a more important effect on our thoughts and behavior. For example, many people make resolutions for the New Year in the hopes of improving their life, and continually remind themselves through self-talk. For example saying to yourself, "I am going to lose weight, exercise more, and quit smoking," applies to one's health and well-being. "I am going to save more money for retirement," refers to financial goals. "I am going to meet more people who share my interests and values," has to do with personal issues. Along with this self-talk a person needs a specific plan to implement these changes and a positive "I can do it" attitude, or their resolutions will most likely fail. Think about it this way; negative self-talk means giving up on yourself and not even giving yourself the chance to succeed. If people say to themselves, "nothing I do matters" or "no one cares so why do I bother," they are not going to be successful with any goal or plan. Positive self-talk improves the chances for success and provides an opportunity to deal with unexpected challenges along the way. Statements such as "exercise hurts but it will get easier as I get in better shape," or "meeting new people is awkward but if I do not try I have no chance of making new friends," provides hope that the effort will pay off. Telling ourselves that we are up for the challenge, able to handle difficult situations, or learn new skills is one of the best conversations we can have. Contributed by Ken Loos, MS, LMLP, LCP Prevention, Education, and Outreach Department Mail questions to: High Plains Mental Health Center, PLAIN SENSE, Consultation and Education Department, 208 East 7th, Hays, KS 67601; or visit www.highplainsmentalhealth.com. Date: 12/4/07
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